Three years ago, somewhere in the middle of sociology class, I had an epiphany.
Hey! I should take up Gender Studies!
It seemed like the most obvious thing to do. Any article online that had the word “gender” or “gay”, awoke the curious rabbit inside of me who won’t stop jumping until I had memorized that article. There was a strange need of knowing why and how we are the way we are.
Also, the socialization concept indirectly blamed parents if the child grew up to be a fuck-up adult. I loved that. I loved the concept so much, I often pointed it out to my mom to piss her off.
Moreover, I really wanted to prove to all the narrow-minded people out there that being gay is not a “choice”.
Imagine the extent of my happiness when I was given psychology as a course during my first semester at Bitches. An opportunity to rant about how experiences shape us and make us the type of twisted people we are. A chance to discuss gender, stereotypes and culture.
Now imagine the extent of my disappointment, when I realized that not one person in the room shared my views. And the one person who did share was too shy to say so. They are so insecure and narrow-minded, that the slight mention of the words “gay” and “sexuality” would turn them against me.
They might conjure up a plan and have me abducted. Or killed. I’m not exaggerating. It’s a definite possibility. Remember the teacher who wanted to break his daughter’s leg for wearing jeans?
So I sit through psychology class with a tape on my lips, my voice dying to break out.
What is strange and unbelievable for me is the fact that a teacher, who claims to have completed her bachelors in Sociology, is actually promoting stereotypes.
“Are girls more aggressive or boys? Anyone? Boys, right? Studies have proven…”
Because I am can’t tell her what I really think without the possibility of offending her and ruining my grade, I have decided I’ll just show this video to her. It’s a video made by Indians. Albeit the rivalry between the two nations, I do want to give them a standing O for this brilliant piece.
Boys don’t cry| Vogue India
What are your views on stereotypes? To what extent do you think stereotypes are correct? Should we be forcing our children to follow stereotypes? Which stereotype do you absolutely hate?